How To Get Someone To Confess

Good hello to everyone!

As y'all know  I'm a huge admirer of decoding human body language, that is a humangous passion of mine and I want to share my knowledge with you. Today‘s topic I‘m sure will be useful to test on in our daily lives. So I‘ll share 7 Ways How To Make Someone To Confess.

The way no.1: Extra Silence

When someone finishes their sentence, wait two beats in a head (count: one, two). That extra silence if someone is holding something back, that makes them incredibly nervous and they usually fill it in terms to spill.

Way no.2: Disturbing personal space

Go into their personal space (meaning really close to them). If someone is lying, they will feel that you’re on to them and will add-in what needs to be added.

Way no.3: Nodes

When people node they speak 3 to 4 times more. If you want to know something more just node three times and they’ll speak more when they see you nodding, because it shows engagement.

Way no.4: Disagreement signs

Show the node no (when you’re shaking your head saying no) and lean back. It will show your disagreement.

Way no.5: Asking to tell story backwards

If someone is telling you a story, they usually memories that well, but if a person making out that story he’ll not be able to tell it backwards. F.e. I woke up, took a shower, went for a walk with my dog, had some breakfasts, went to work, met my friends, went bowling, and came back home. So you can ask to say everything backwards, starting from coming back home or just ask “”What did you do after meeting friends?”. If a person told the truth he will have no problem saying that backwards, but in case he lied, he’ll mess up.

Way no.6: Reverse version

A lot of time liars tend not to admit the wrong things. So if you suspect someone, you can actually say f.e. You’re worried that your child stolen some money from your wallet, you can say: “Did you take any money and credit card from my wallet?” Well, you don’t have credit card missing, so of course he didn’t take it. So in this case liars more likely to correct you on reverse part, because he didn’t take your credit card, but admits taking money. F.e. answer would be: “oh, I didn’t take your credit card”. So the point is that he didn’t say a thing about money. In this way he admits that he didn’t take credit card, but took some money from your wallet. In this case, the liar protects for what he didn’t do, but forgets about what actually did.

Way no.7: Empathies towards liars

Minimize the risk of punishment and making think that it is not a big deal whatsoever he did. If a person is afraid of punishment, if this is a case, he will spill up everything when he’ll feel that he’s not going to be punished.

So this is pretty much it for today's blog. I'm not sure am I going to write one more blog this month and of course this year, so if not, I wish all of you Merry X-mas and a happy, full of love & respect New Year. 
Hope you liked today's blog and it was easy to understand. I wish all the best for y'all and I'll see you next time with another blog.

Sorry for my English. It is not my mother-tongue language.

Hope you can understand. xx

Female Signs of Attraction

Hello readers ;)


Just after publishing my last blog called "How To Spot A Liar" I received a request, asking me to write about ways how to correctly use the body language to send the attraction signals towards man. I thought that it is an interesting topic and it is useful for both sides.
Let me first explain the reason why it is useful. It's because males mislead first signals of attraction sent by females towards them. So, if you are a women you have to show 3 or 4 times to man that you're interested in him. And males, who'll read this blog are going to understand this simple, but at the same time hard thing for them.

Female's Body Language Of Attraction:

The Power of Pheromones. Look up into the side of the man by tilting your head and showing neck. It'll release pheromones.

Flirty moves. Touching the neck or tossing your hair is another flirting move. It also draws man's attention.


Wrists. Showing your wrists shows that you're vulnerable and feminine.

Throat. Rub your throat. Unconsciously women's does that when they feel it's intimate topic.

To sum up,  this is what you must do when you see an attractive man across the bar:

Look up,
Show the roundness of your face (Chin down),
Foss your hair,
Blink eyelashes.
And repeat it 3 to 4 times.

Don't do.

Claiming your space. Spreading your arms around & While standing putting your arms on ribs.

The reason for that is, men finds availability more attractive than looking good, what you're wearing, or even facial expressions. So when you cross your arms it shows your inaccessibility.

While keeping a conversation please do:

1. Lean towards;
2. Leave your arms uncrossed;
3. Smile and have an expressive face;

As the last time so and this, to end up this blog here are some useful tips 
How To Turn People On During Conversation:

1. Abandon boring social scripts;
2. Use killer conversation starters;

So this is pretty much it for today's blog. Hope you liked it and it was easy to understand. I wish all the best for y'all and I'll see you next time with another blog.


Sorry for my English. It is not my mother-tongue language.
Hope you can understand. xx
 

How To Spot A Liar

Good day everyone!

So this month I decided to write something different, but still at least a bit related to my life experiences. Thus, for the past a few years I was doing some researches about Decoding Human Body Language & Facial Expressions and believe it or not, my friends seemed to enjoy me explaining this topic. Well consequently I decided to share my knowledge about it in this blog.

To begin, I want to let you know, that you should not take it too seriously about whatsoever I will write here, because to spot a liar is a long and deep process, and your success depends on your understanding psychology and a friend you're testing and so on.

Please remember two rules, that the most important thing is to know WHY that person is lying and not WHEN & people from different cultures has their unique body languages, but after all they're all kind of the same.

So, the first step is to Detect The Base Line. 

You can do it by asking very easy questions where that person has no reason to lie about. For example, "What's your name?", "Do you have any pets?" and so on.
It's extremely important, because this helps to see how the person behaves when he's relax, neutral, simply saying when he's telling the truth.

The next step would be Finding Hotspot Areas.

Believe it or not, people are much more focused on their verbal affection, and very little on their body language, sometimes they're not thinking about their body language significance at all. However, more then 70% of communication comes from your body language, and the rest 30% splits up in to hearing, touching, smelling and tasting. So, now you can see how important is your body language.


There are four most visible hotspot areas: forehead, shoulders, mouth, and hands.

Forehead. When a person is touching its forehead it usually shows shame or nervous about something. That is a good way to detect if a person did learn the lesson. For example, your daughter stole some money from the wallet and you explained her to never do that again, so if you will talk about same theme in the future and she will start touching her forehead, it means that she is ashamed of what she's done and most likely will never do that again.

Shoulders. If a person's one side of shoulder will suddenly shrug, that would often mean that a person does not have faith in what he's saying, in other words saying "I don't believe what I'm talking about". For example, you left your wallet in the taxi cab and you came back and asking taxi driver "Have you seen my wallet? I believe I left it here" and while taxi driver says "No, I haven't seen it" his shoulder will shrug, then you better write down his name for the police officers as a possible suspect, because there is a huge chance that he's the one who took it.

Mouth&Lips. Our body is controlled by brains, so mouth and lips are not exception as well. Often we purse our lips when our brains tells us not to say something. Literally our brains sends the signal to our body "Shout your mouth". For example, you're asking your women that is significant in your life "What's your age?", and while she's answering the question she purses her lips, well it is possible that she just made out her age, or said something she didn't really wanted.

Hands. If while detecting base line hands were standing still and once you started talking about something else they're started moving or clenching the chair, touching ears, or vice verse, it's very likely that the person is either lying or not telling something that is very important. For example, you are asking your manager about the raise of your salary and he says "We can't raise your salary", but suddenly clenches his chair, well be aware, because most likely he's lying about that.

P.S. Crossing hands behind back and clenching your head means lying, shows shame of submission.

The third step: Looking for clusters.

When behavior differs from the base line and has a mix of gestures, then you should be extremely aware of that person. This is the reason why we need to detect base line first, because after detecting it we can start looking for let's call it "weird" behaviors, which usually means that a person is most likely lying.

And finally, to end this blog I will reveal Two Marvelous And Useful Tips:

1. Liars are usually looking at your face to see if you believe in their lies and NOT VICE VERSE.

2. We tend to look where we're hiding something just before answering the question.

So this is pretty much it for today's blog. Hope you liked it and it was easy to understand. I wish all the best for y'all and I'll see you next time with another blog.


Sorry for my English. It is not my mother-tongue language.
Hope you can understand. xx

A Lesson To Learn

Good day fellas! :)

So, today I decided to write about the lesson that I've learned in the past and it might help you too by some weird way. Or maybe not, it's up to you fellas.

Well, I am talking about the decision making in our daily lives while choosing with who you want to be more than friends, but can't decide.

To begin, my personal suggestion is not to go with double, triple, quadruple, quintuple and so on dates. Let me tell you why. Trust me, in the end you will get my point! 
The reason is, that at the end of the day you will loose the rest of dates like instantly. Why is it wrong for you and them? Imagine, that you like five females and you are in the situation where you have to decide which one will be your girlfriend and probably future fiancee or even wife. As you are still a free, meaning not taken man, you are going on dates with them. Finally you have decided which female is the best for you. However, after 2 months of constant dating you have realized that she was not the best option, so you have to break up with her while it is not too late to do so. And now you are alone and looking for another life partner of yours. 
The worst part of it is that those other 4 girls are not going to date you again, because no one wants to be a second choice. So you have to find someone you haven't met yet. That does sucks, because the story will start over and over again. 

So my solution to this sounds like that:

Don't go for more than one date at once. If you find a girl you maybe like, then go for it. If nothing works out, then  you will still have the rest of girls that you will like (I am talking about those 4 girls. If you met them in the first place you will meet them after separation too, just in other circumstances, but not after dating them all first and coming back again, because as I said, no one wants to be your second choice). Does it makes sense?

Moreover, there are a few more reasons why it is wrong to go on dates with more than one person.

First of all, it is rude. How do you feel kissing 5 different girls? It is kind of sounds like cheating and tells nothing good about you. Would you want them to do same thing to you?

Secondly, it is really disrespectful. I know, I know, you are in position of making a life choice, but still, it is disrespectful. Do you think she deserved to be in this kind of position to be treated like this? Would you want to be someones friend from the list with pluses and minuses? I guess not.

And finally, the karma is everywhere. If you do something bad in any way to someone, then karma will come back to you with double power. Trust me you don't want this as well.

To sum up, my personal suggestion is always put yourself in others position and decide weather you would like that someone would do same thing to you, or not. Don't do things that you don't want that someone would do to you.

And also remember, that you can always end up in the position where you will loose the moon, while counting the stars.

Just to add in, it was just my personal opinion about it and it is not necessarily suppose to be the same as yours. I'm not judging anyone, just saying what I think.

So this is pretty much it for today's blog. I might write another blog this month again, just to share my experience from my birthday, which is going to be in two weeks.

I hope you liked this blog. I love you all and see you next time.


Sorry for my English. It's not my mother tongue language.
Hope you can understand. xx

It hurts

A few days ago I broke up with my boyfriend. We were together for almost 4 years. He said that he doesn‘t love me anymore and feels way better and happier without me. It was good enough reason for me to let him go . . .  

Although I’m a strong person and psychologically well knowledge, it’s really hard to let him go for real, even though I know that I have no other choice. I just love him to death and can’t imagine living my life without him.  I’ve pasted five stages of grief like 4 times, but it seems like I will need even more cycles of it, because after acceptance I’m coming back to either depression or denial. I taught I’m doing better than I could ever imagine, but I was wrong. I’m even crying now, while writing this. I don’t know if it’s because of those 4 years, or enormous love, but all I can say is that it is hard as hell.

I’m trying to open the new chapter of my life, but I keep coming back to the past, looking for something, I don’t even know for what. I know this will go away sooner or later, but for now it seems that destination “new life” is as far as it was in the beginning. People are telling me to be around close friends, but all I want is to be alone. I’m might falling to depression, but the fact that I understand it, doesn’t help me at all, it just makes me feel useless and hopeless, because I can't deal with it. Maybe I just don’t want to move on right now. Maybe I want to keep coming back to the past. But that means that I’m not that smart as I taught I’m. If this is the case I’ll stuck in the past and will never have my life again.

My heart is screaming from the pain I’m in now. I really want to take it off sometimes and say “calm down for a second, that’s not the end of the world”, but it keeps saying ”tell him how much you love him, tell him or you will feel me for the rest of your life”. However, I do realize that I’m not the only one who’s important in this particular situation. I should not focus on what I want or need. I know that pretty clear.  This is one of the things that keeps me going little by little to hopefully the right destination. I respect him, so if he says he’s better without me, I’ll accept that. In fact, I have already accepted that, just my brains are going crazy with all the thoughts in it. However, something deep inside me prays for at least a little bit of hope to start everything again, even though I think I couldn’t do it, but I’ll try to destroy that hope. The sooner I’ll do it, the faster I’ll see things with a clear vision.

However, for now I’ll do everything in my power to let him go and if he will ever give me another chance, I’ll do everything in my power to get him back, if I will still feel that this is what I trully want. I hope I’m going to the right direction and everything will turn out fine.  He’s a nice person even though he left me while I was on my holiday in different country, but as I said, I respect him and as I love him so much I could not do anything bad for him, so I wish him good luck in his life and I hope this is exactly what he wants.


For those, who does not understand why I’m blogging this hard experience of mine, I can say, that I’m doing it for others, who might feel a little bit better if they will feel they are not alone, that if anyone is in the similar situation as mine, maybe he or she will find a peace of wisdom, even though I think there is no wisdom in here, just a peace or random thoughts and hard feelings, but just knowing that you are not the only one, who’s going through a similar experience of life makes us feel better.

Sorry for the mistakes, English is not my mother tongue language, but I tried my best, so hopefully you can understand and appreciate it. 

Egzistuoji. Kartais.

Pabundi ryte ir pirma mintis "kas bus šiandien?". Užmiegi ir atsikeli į nežinomę su nežinomybe. Kartais turi dienos planą, ar kitaip tariant "to do list", o kartais tavo diena priklauso nuo kitų žmonių dienos plano. Atsikeli, susiruoši išeiti, o prieš paliekant namus nusipaišai šypseną, tam, kad kitiems nekliūtum į akis; tam, kad išvengtum klausimų, į kuriuos atsakymas yra akivaizdus, bet kol esi su šypsenos kauke - niekam neužkliūni...
Žudai savo nervų ląsteles, keli kantrumo levelį, kaupi pyktį, išspaudi liūdesio ašarą...Taip pravergauji 8 valandas per dieną. Grįžti namo suirzęs, pražilęs ir raukšlėtas. Piktas ir be nuotaikos. Vietoj to, kad dovanotum šypseną aplinkiniams žmonėms, kurie tau iš tiesų rūpi, kuriuos myli ir sergėji, ją teiki tiems, su kuriais tau šlykšu net egzistuoti: egoistams, pinigų maniakams, energetiniams vampyrams, kurie maitinasi tavo liūdesiu. Tada stovėdamas prieš veidrodį kartoji: "netokiu žmogum norėjau tapti, netokioj visuomenėj norėjau gimti".
Naktim svajoji užsiimti dalykais, kurie tau išties rūpi: muzika, piešimas, meditacija, pagalba kitiems: skurstamtiems, ar tiesiog stovintiems ant bedugnės krašto... Nori nusiraminti, gyventi laisvai. Žinai, kad tai pasiekti gali sunkiu darbu, kuris negarantuoja trokštamų rezultatų. Todėl toliau triūsi diena iš dienos, kol vieną dieną prarandi motyvaciją. Prarandi tikėjimą, kad kažkas pasikeis. Net jei ir visą gyvenimą, buvai sąžiningas ir doras žmogus- be pinigų nepasieksi trokštamų rezultatų. Keiki juos, keiki tuos pinigus. Jie griauna tavo svajones, užsibrėžtus tikslus. Vaikai, šeima, namas, mašina- tampa jau išblėsusia svajone. Nes supranti, kad viso šio pasiekęs, paliksi viso to pačio siekti, tuo pačiu sunkiu keliu, savo vaikam, anūkams, proanūkiams... Tada suvoki, kad neverta išleisti gyvybės į žemę, kuriai reikės taip pačiai vergauti, taip pačiai sunkiai siekti savo tikslų. Juk nori vaikams pačio geriausio, o kol negali to suteikti jiems - negali jų turėti. Net ir sąžinė bei blaivus protas kartoja, kad turi turėti vaikus ne tam, kad jie suteiktų tau džiaugsmo, o tam, kad jie patys būtų laimingi.
Tada grįžti prie tikslų, kurie nieko nekainuoja. Juk viskas šioj žemėj remiama popierium, kuris toks šlykščiai pavojingas: žudo žmones, kelia karus, žlugdo planus... Grįžti prie žemiškų dalykų. Medituoji. Ieškai sielos ramybės. Ieškai išminties. Prašai protingo patarimo. Kol suvoki, kad tai, į ką tau piršo tikėti yra tai, kas kertasi su tavo tikėjimu, tavo samprotavimu, tavo vertybėm. Pradedi tikėti į kažką, neduodamas tam vardo. Sakai, kad tiki į saulę, dangų, mėnulį ar žvaigždes. Jos bent atlieka kažkokią funkciją. Bet niekaip neatmeti galimybės, kad yra kažkas aukščiau. Aukščiau tavęs. Kažkas, ką kaikurie vadina likimu. Tu tiki į tai.
Užsibrėži naujus tikslus ir grįžti į pradžią. Taip pravergauji visą savo gyvenimą. Miršti nelaimingas ir jautiesi nepasiekęs nieko, ko norėjai pats, o tik tai, ko reikėjo kitiems.