How To Spot A Liar

Good day everyone!

So this month I decided to write something different, but still at least a bit related to my life experiences. Thus, for the past a few years I was doing some researches about Decoding Human Body Language & Facial Expressions and believe it or not, my friends seemed to enjoy me explaining this topic. Well consequently I decided to share my knowledge about it in this blog.

To begin, I want to let you know, that you should not take it too seriously about whatsoever I will write here, because to spot a liar is a long and deep process, and your success depends on your understanding psychology and a friend you're testing and so on.

Please remember two rules, that the most important thing is to know WHY that person is lying and not WHEN & people from different cultures has their unique body languages, but after all they're all kind of the same.

So, the first step is to Detect The Base Line. 

You can do it by asking very easy questions where that person has no reason to lie about. For example, "What's your name?", "Do you have any pets?" and so on.
It's extremely important, because this helps to see how the person behaves when he's relax, neutral, simply saying when he's telling the truth.

The next step would be Finding Hotspot Areas.

Believe it or not, people are much more focused on their verbal affection, and very little on their body language, sometimes they're not thinking about their body language significance at all. However, more then 70% of communication comes from your body language, and the rest 30% splits up in to hearing, touching, smelling and tasting. So, now you can see how important is your body language.


There are four most visible hotspot areas: forehead, shoulders, mouth, and hands.

Forehead. When a person is touching its forehead it usually shows shame or nervous about something. That is a good way to detect if a person did learn the lesson. For example, your daughter stole some money from the wallet and you explained her to never do that again, so if you will talk about same theme in the future and she will start touching her forehead, it means that she is ashamed of what she's done and most likely will never do that again.

Shoulders. If a person's one side of shoulder will suddenly shrug, that would often mean that a person does not have faith in what he's saying, in other words saying "I don't believe what I'm talking about". For example, you left your wallet in the taxi cab and you came back and asking taxi driver "Have you seen my wallet? I believe I left it here" and while taxi driver says "No, I haven't seen it" his shoulder will shrug, then you better write down his name for the police officers as a possible suspect, because there is a huge chance that he's the one who took it.

Mouth&Lips. Our body is controlled by brains, so mouth and lips are not exception as well. Often we purse our lips when our brains tells us not to say something. Literally our brains sends the signal to our body "Shout your mouth". For example, you're asking your women that is significant in your life "What's your age?", and while she's answering the question she purses her lips, well it is possible that she just made out her age, or said something she didn't really wanted.

Hands. If while detecting base line hands were standing still and once you started talking about something else they're started moving or clenching the chair, touching ears, or vice verse, it's very likely that the person is either lying or not telling something that is very important. For example, you are asking your manager about the raise of your salary and he says "We can't raise your salary", but suddenly clenches his chair, well be aware, because most likely he's lying about that.

P.S. Crossing hands behind back and clenching your head means lying, shows shame of submission.

The third step: Looking for clusters.

When behavior differs from the base line and has a mix of gestures, then you should be extremely aware of that person. This is the reason why we need to detect base line first, because after detecting it we can start looking for let's call it "weird" behaviors, which usually means that a person is most likely lying.

And finally, to end this blog I will reveal Two Marvelous And Useful Tips:

1. Liars are usually looking at your face to see if you believe in their lies and NOT VICE VERSE.

2. We tend to look where we're hiding something just before answering the question.

So this is pretty much it for today's blog. Hope you liked it and it was easy to understand. I wish all the best for y'all and I'll see you next time with another blog.


Sorry for my English. It is not my mother-tongue language.
Hope you can understand. xx