MIRRORING OTHERS OR MONKEY SEE, MONKEY DO

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Sorry, for a bit late blog. There's a lot going on right now in my life, so don't always have much time for writing blogs. However, as at the moment I'm in a hospital I did take my time to write a proper blog. Well, today's blog will be mirroring others. I hope you will like it and will find this information at least a little bit useful.

              We all know that after a long period of time of living with someone we're starting to look alike. That's  why we do wear similar clothes with friends, that's why we start doing identical gestures with a person we're talking to.
Thus, today's blog is going to be about mirroring another person. I got this idea after watching a serie called Dr House M.D, where one of the main characters proposed to his wife for a second time in order to fix their marriage, and this was led by what he saw in a hospital. So, Dr House explained it like "money see - monkey do" movement/ gesture. This is why children wants the sat toys as their friends have.
Well, mirroring happens among friends or between two people of the same status and it's common to see married couples walk, stand, sit and move in identical ways. Albert Scheflen found that people who are strangers studiously avoid holding mirror positions.

Matching Voices

Intonation, voice inflection, speed of speaking and even accents also synchronize during the mirroring process to further establish mutual attitudes and build rapport. This is why we do start talking louder with the people who are loud speakers, or we're starting yelling as well if someone yells at us. This is known as "pacing" and it can almost seem as if the two people are singing in tune.

Tip: never speak at a faster rate than the other person. Studies reveal that others describe feeling "pressured" when someone speaks more quickly than they do. So speak at the same rate or slightly slower than the other person and mirror their inflection and intonation.

Intentionally Creating Rapport

If a boss wants to develop a rapport and create a relaxed atmosphere with a nervous employee, he could copy the employee's posture to achieve this end. Similarly, a up-and-coming employee may be seen copying his boss's gestures in an attempt to show agreement when the boss is giving his opinion.  Using this knowledge, it is possible to influence others by mirroring their positive gestures and posture. This has the effect of putting the other person in a receptive and relaxed frame of mind, because he can "see" that you understand his point of view.

Tip: before you mirror someone's body language, however, you must take into consideration your relationship with that person. Accountants, lawyers and managers are notorious for using superiority body language clusters around people they consider inferior. By mirroring, you can disconcert them and force a change of position.

Who Mirrors Whom?

Researches show that when the leader of a group assumes certain gestures and positions, subordinates will copy, usually in peeking order. When a group of executives walk into a room, the person with the highest status usually goes first. When presenting ideas, products and services to couples, watching who mirrors whom reveals where the ultimate power of final decision making ability lies.

So, this is pretty much it for today's blog. Hope you liked it and it was easy to understand. I wish all the best for y'all and I'll see you next time with another blog. Please don't forget to subscribe for more blogs and share it with your friends, and of course to give g+1 if you enjoyed reading it, so I would be able to know that the body language is the exact topic you want to read about more.

Sorry for my English. It is not my mother-tongue language.
Hope you can understand. xx