WHAT DOES YOUR HANDSHAKE MEAN?

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As many of you know I'm a huge admirer of non-verbal communication. So sometimes, at the gatherings or parties I do say a thing or two about this to my friends or family members. And as suprising as it is, many of them enjoyed knowing the meanings of their handshakes. So, for today's blog I decided to share my knowledge about it from a book of Allan Pease called "Body Language How to read others'thoughts by their gestures".

To begin with, the handshake is defined as a gripping and shaking of right hands by two individuals, as to symbolize greeting, congratulation, agreement or farewell. Well, nowadays there are a few types of handshakes where people tend to make out their own unique hand movements, where dominant gesture is not just shaking. Also, in some cases with some people, handshakes were changed to hugs, kisses and etc.

DOMINANT AND SUBMISSIVE HANDSHAKES

In general there are three different handshake types:

1) DOMINANT  HANDSHAKE: There dominance is transmitted by turning your hand so that your palm faces down in the handshake. Your palm need not be facing downwards in relation to the other person's palm and this tells him that you wish to take control in the encounter that follows.



2) SUBMISSIVE HANDSHAKE: There you offer your hand with your palm facing upwards. This is particularly effective when you want to give the other person control or allow him to feel that he is in command of the situation. Keep in mind that the submissive person will use submissive gestures and the dominant person will use more aggresive ones.





3) VICE-LIKE HANDSHAKE: When two dominant people shake hands, a symbolic struggle takes place as each person tries to turn the other's palm into the submissive position. The result is a vice-like hand shake with both palms remaining in the vertical position as each person transmits a feeling of respect and rapport to the other. This vice-like vertical palm grip is the handshake that a father teaches his son when he shows him how to "shake hands like a man".

HAND SHAKE STYLES

There are seven handshake styles:

1) THE PALM-DOWN THRUST: It is certainly the most aggressive handshake style as it gives the receiver little chance of establishing an equal relationship.





2) THE GLOVE HANDSHAKE: It's sometimes called the politician's handshake. The initiator tries to give the receiver the impression that he is trustworthy and honest, but when this technique is used on a person he has just met, it has the reverse effect.





3) THE DEAD FISH HANDSHAKE: Particularly when the hand is cold or clammy. The soft, placid feel of the dead fish make it universally unpopular and most people relate it to weak character, mainly because of the ease with which the palm can be turned up.

4) THE KNUCKLE GRINDER: It's the trademark of the aggresive "tough guy" type. Just like the palm-down thrust, the stiff-arm thrust tends to be used by aggressive types and its main purpose is to keep you at a distance and out of the initiator's intimate zone. It is also used by people brought up in country areas who have a large intimate zone to protect their personal territory.

5) THE FINGER-TIP GRAB: It's like the stiff-arm thrust that has missed the mark; the user mistakenly grabs the other person's fingers. Even though the initiator may appear to have a keen and enthusiastic attitude towards the receiver, in fact lacks confident in himself.

6) THE ARM-PULL: When pulling the receiver into the initiator's territory can mean one of two things:

• First, the initiator is an insecure type who feels safe only within his own personal space.

• Second, the initiator is from a culture that has a small intimate zone and he's behaving normally.

7) DOUBLE-HANDED HADNSHAKES: It's used to show sincerity, trust or depth of feelings towards the receiver. Two significant elements should be noticed:

• First, the left hand is used to communicate the extra feeling that the initiator wishes to transmit and its extent is related to the distance that the initiator's left hand is moved up the receiver's right arm. The elbow group transmits more feelings than the wrist hold, and the shoulder hold, transmits more than the upper-arm grip.

• Second, the initiator's left hand represents an invasion of the receiver's intimate and close intimate zones.

So, this is pretty much it for today's blog. Hope you liked it and it was easy to understand. I wish all the best for y'all and I'll see you next time with another blog. Please don't forget to subscribe for more blogs and share it with your friends, and of course to give g+1, if you enjoyed reading it, so I would be able to know that the body language is the exact topic you want to read about more.

Sorry for my English. It is not my mother-tongue language.
Hope you can understand. xx

INVASION TO PERSONAL SPACE

Hello and welcome everyone! ;)

So, today's blog is going to be about personal space.
Oxford dictionary defins personal space as physical space immediatly surrounding someone, into which encroachment can feel threatening or uncomfortable. 

Let me start with my personal experiences.

I'm that type of person, who prefers to keep distance between one another. It's nothing personal, but I just feel uncomfortable, or even makes me feel like someone is about to stab me, if he or she is too close to me.
Well, I have no problems being close to my lover, holding hands and etc., but with less close people I just can't stand them being too much close.
My mother and sister are those type of people who are, as I call - touchy, like kittens wants to be always around you, but I'm not.
So, usually it's enough to say "don't go into my personal bubble", but in some cases I have to spreed my arms to show where the boundaries are, by doing so, everyone understands what I meant. This works everytime.

Now, let's talk about some explanations related to this topic.
Well, recently I read a book called "The definition book of Body Language" by Allan and Barbara Pease.

So, there are four types of zone distances:

1. The intimate zone: between 15 to 45 cm. Only those, who are emotionally close to us are permitted to enter. This includes lovers, parents, spouse, children, close friends, relatives and pets.

2. The personal zone: between 46 cm to 1.22m. This is the distance we stand from others at cocktail, office parties, social functions and friendly gatherings.

3. The social zone: between 1.22 to 3.6m. We stand at this distance from strangers, the plumber or carpenter doing repairs around our home, the postman, the local shopkeeper, the new wmployee at work and people whom we don't know very well.

4. The public zone: is over 3.6m. Whenever we address a large group of people, this is the comfortable distance at which we choose to stand.



However, to all of these four typers there's an exception: women stand slightly closer to one another, face each other more and touch more than man do with other men.

There's also a golder rule, if you want people to feel comfortable around you, especially the very first time - keep your distance. The more intimate our relationships are with others, the closer they'll permit us to move within their zones and vice verse.

Also, the distance that two people keep their hips apart when they embrace, reveals clues about the relationship between them.

One of the exceptions to the distance/intimacy rule occurs where the spatial distance is based on the person's social standing.

To sum up, others will invite or reject you, depending on the respect that you have for their personal space. This is why the happy-go-lucky person, who slaps everyone he meets on the back or continually touches people during a conversation, is secretly disliked by everyone.
Many factors can affect the spatial distance a person takes in relation to others, so it's wise to consider every criterion before making a judgement about why a person is keeping a certain distance.


TRY THE LUNCHEON TEST

Unspoken territorial rules state that a restourant table is divided equally down the middle and the staff carefully place the salt, pepper, sugar, flowers and other accessories equally on center line. As the meal progresses, subtly move the salt cellar across to the other person's side, then the pepper, flowers and so on. Before long this subtle territorial invasion will cause a reaction in your lunchmate. They either sit back to regain their space or start pushing everything back to the center.

So, this is pretty much it for today's blog. Hope you liked it and it was easy to understand. I wish all the best for y'all and I'll see you next time with another blog. Please don't forget to subscribe for more blogs and share it with your friends, and of course to give g+1 if you enjoyed reading it, so I would be able to know that the body language is the exact topic you want to read about more.

Sorry for my English. It is not my mother-tongue language.
Hope you can understand. xx